You are exactly right, and yes this is sturdy but at the moment I can't see him as often as I want to I guess that is a plus, like you said I can't rush things, as it is for him I think a real start and he asked me not to go too fast, he hasn't been married yet, he is 36 years old and he is full of joy in his expression, easy going, shy at times, and very respectful, but he does not want to rush things as he is still very close to his mom and adores her. So it is a start, but a delicate start and a very challenging relation that I have to overcome emotionally, because I love him very much and I do have positive attitude towards it, but if I am sad is those days I can't see him, because of work, you were right on your reading. Katia